So, how do you do it? How do you break up with someone? There isn’t a manual for these sorts of things; you just have to figure it out for yourself. The important thing is that you do what is best you. If you are unhappy, and you see no chance of that changing, you need to do something. If you are being taken advantage of, or if you don’t appreciate how you’re being treated, then you need to do something. Staying in a bad relationship because you feel you have no other choice is a terrible way to live your life. Still, you may be apprehensive to actually take that first step.
Well, here is what you can do. First step is to make your final decision. This is a conversation you should have with your partner. Actually, it should be one of many conversations you should have with your partner, regarding your happiness in the relationship. Once you begin to feel unhappy, make your voice heard. Don’t wait until the end to express what is on your mind.
Once you’ve made it clear that you are unhappy, and only after you feel you’ve worked as hard as you can (within reason) to keep the relationship strong, you need to make the decision. You can always consult your friends or family for added support, but ultimately the decision needs to be your own. Once you’ve made that decision, it is important not to second-guess yourself. You know what is best for yourself, and you need to go through with it, no matter how hard.
Next, you need to confront your partner. Don’t sugar coat anything, but don’t be mean either. Express how you feel, and the decision you’ve made. Explain that this is coming from a place of love and compassion, and that you will always cherish the good times the two of you have shared. However, you are just too unhappy now to continue and you feel you must separate, and end the relationship. This shouldn’t come as a shock to your partner. If done correctly, he/she should be well aware of the problems the two of you are facing. If he/she hasn’t done his/her part to make it better, then they only have one person to blame…themselves.
Lastly, you need to stick to your decision and begin the grieving process. If you were truly in love, and truly happy then a break-up won’t be easy. You’ll miss the love and support you no longer have. You will be in the world, alone again, forced to fend for yourself. Our recommendation is to stay in this “alone” time for at least a month. Appreciate the world around you, and refocus your goals. Once you feel your life is back on track, then you can begin looking for other potential relationship partners.
We hope this advice will help, but always keep in mind every situation is different. If you have a personal or unique story you’d like to share, contact us on Facebook or through Stellasingles.com/contact.php
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