Jun 5th 2011
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I'm in the 30's and I thought the games with women would end. How do I handle a situation when I know a girl is just playing games?
Just to give you a little background on this particular girl: We have known each other a few months now and get along well. We volunteer together and went out for coffee alone once. She'll have mutual friends bring up other guys in attempt to make me jealous. How do I let her know I'm not interested in immaturity without becoming a horrible guy? She could potentially be someone I would want to date, but we're not quite there yet.
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Stop making yourself so easily available all the time. That's the best way to end that game. Do your thing and keep it moving.

don't get sucked into her games. its hard if you like her and you enjoy being with her, but if she's immature, just move away from her. move on to someone else. if she's into you, she'll come back to you and want to act more mature. if she was more into the attention, then she'll move on too. its a tough thing to do, but it will be better for you in the end.

If she's playing games, you shouldn't even bother with her anymore. Say you just want to be friends and move on.

Be honest. Just like you'd appreciate it from her, you have to give her the same - if she reacts then you're probably better off nipping it in the bud anyway.

You would think the games would be over by now. Just be honest with her and let her know your intent/interest. You don't want to play games, so I reckon honesty is the only way to go here.

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