Tracious
Jan 2nd 2013
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My boyfriend just told me that he wants to breakup. I can't believe this. We just spent great holidays together. Any advice on how I can handle that?
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I'm sorry to hear that. Another couple that I know just went through the same thing, and it wasn't easy. He spoke to me for quite a while, looking for advice on how to do it - what to expect - how to prevent her from hating him - etc. In the end, two adults should be able to get through it. It WILL hurt, of course, but it WILL also be for the best. If one of you isn't in it 100%, then there isn't any point in being in it at all. Also, Sophie is right. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, many of whom can be found on StellaSingles I bet. :)

Don't try to argue with him. If he said it, tell him he's missing out and walk away. When he says "I want to break-up" he's assuming that he's going to crush you. Understandably so, considering the fun holidays the two of you have shared. However, if you turn around and say - "I can't believe you'd say that...goodbye." you leave him to feel bad about the decision he made...which ultimatley may have been a bad one.

Well, at least you spent nice holidays together (I presume). This must have been in the works for a while in his head. The problem with guys is that they don't communicate and then all of a sudden it's over. I would ask him to discuss this. Don't beg to get back together, just try to find out what exactly the problem was. Once you know it, then you can suggest to maybe try and work on the issues and give you a chance to work with him on that, since obviously you weren't in the loop. Good luck and remember, there's plenty of fish in the sea.

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